It feels complete and yet excludes everything you are.

So you make a veneer that matches one of the ideas people around you have of what humans can be. You learn to present the veneer while being who you actually are inside yourself. Maybe sometime you meet other humans where you can show more of who you are.

Or, you try to eliminate who you actually are and truly be one of the ideas people around you have of what humans can be.

Or, you just be who you are openly from the beginning in a place where it is totally not what people expect. I can't believe that that would work.