Women are adaptable when explaining to themselves that the demeaning situation they are in isn't demeaning and doesn't scrunch them up and stunt their growth.

If the woman and the people around her are religious, she can explain to herself that the holy book says this is great.

If she and the people around her are into making the world better by doing new and different things, she can explain to herself that the way she is scrunched up and tamped down is part of a wonderful experiment that is improving the world.

Thinking off the leash is needed--those thoughts way over there could help lots of people who weren't designed to think them first but who could totally live them out if they heard them.

Thinking in praise of the leash kills at least possibilities. Sometimes thinking in praise of the leash kills people who stay in a dangerous situation about which they have a noble theory.