If good girl and bad girl are mentioned at the same time as categories, it's about sex. The bad girl is too available by someone's standard.

However, if a woman talks about being a good girl without bad girl being mentioned, she might not be talking about sex. She might be talking about any number of things.

Here's a situation where there are clear rules. If I follow the rules, I'm being a good girl.

I might be following the rules because I believe they are right, or a generally, on the whole, given how complex the world is, believe they are pretty good rules.

I might be following the rules because I figure it will make my life easier.

Sometimes women get tired of being a good girl in that sense. Just bored maybe. Or it didn't work the way it was supposed to as a road to the easier life.

The woman is not then a bad girl, which is about being too available by someone's standard sexually.

The woman is then in a position to be a very smart and helpful girl, having left someone else's rules behind.


The good girl may have been too available to someone else's rules.